Recommended Resources
“Love has an immense ability to help heal the devastating wounds that life sometimes deals us. Love also enhances our sense of connection to the larger world. Loving responsiveness is the foundation of a truly compassionate, civilized society.”
Hold Me Tight is a wonderful resource for couples to read together. Written by the creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this book helps couples navigate conversations that are focused on building emotional connection and changing old patterns.
“Our parts can sometimes be disruptive or harmful, but once they’re unburdened, they return to their essential goodness. When we learn to love all our parts, we can learn to love all people—and that will contribute to healing the world.”
No Bad Parts helps us realize that the parts of ourselves that frustrate us and seem to get in the way are just trying to help, and if we can meet them with curiosity and compassion, then they can relax into less reactive roles. The book offers guided meditations aimed at understanding all parts of ourselves and building trust in our core Self.
“Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are met, and the earlier the better, they usually turn their attention outward. This is sometimes referred to in attachment literature as the “dependency paradox”: The more effectively dependent people are on one another, the more independent and daring they become.”
Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) have, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
"Once we know how our nervous system works, we can work with it. We can learn to access an embodied, biological resource that is always present, available, and there to guide us toward well-being.”
Through guided imagery, meditation, self-inquiry, and more, Anchored offers a practical user’s manual for moving from a place of fear and panic into a grounded space of balance and confidence. Using field-tested techniques, Deb Dana helps you master the skills to become more aware of your nervous system moment to moment—and change the way you respond to the great and small challenges of life.
“the goal is not to heal
and then begin your life
the goal is to embrace healing
as a life long journey and allow
genuine connections
to emerge organically
along the way.”
clarity & connection is a modern book of poems about the impact of past wounds and traumas on current relationships.
“Trust is the active engagement with the unknown. Trust is risky. It’s vulnerable. It’s a leap of faith.”
“A person who tries to be the perfect partner feels as though they must have it all together, as if that just comes naturally. But in reality, you are allowed to make mistakes, search for yourself, and not have all the answers about who you really are.”
In this podcast you can listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door in Where Should We Begin?
"There is no path toward oneself that leads away from the pain."